Learning how not to be nervous is a skill that will build your confidence and will bring your social anxiety down to a more manageable level.
But you need to know this:
Nervousness is one of our most primitive instincts, my Butterfly.
So it’s natural to get nervous.
It’s your body’s fight-or-flight reflex kicking in, making you aware and keeping you safe.
Remember – this is a GOOD thing.
It shows that your brain and your body is working perfectly well.
Your brain is identifying potential “threats” and sending that signal to your body that it needs to prepare for action.
And that surge of adrenaline tells your body that it needs to get ready – either to fight, or to run away.
Either option will take physical stamina.
So your body gets ready for action.
You start to breathe faster to oxygenate your blood, ready for action.
Your reflexes sharpen temporarily, ready for action.
And you might be shaking, due to the rush of “go time” chemicals in your body – ready for action!
But of course – these are not pleasant symptoms to have.
Especially when fighting or fleeing are not options for you.
And if you have a big social event or even a social task coming up (something that you really want to do because it’s important to you) – nervousness can feel extremely uncomfortable.
So it’s good to know a few tips and tricks to settle your nerves a bit.
How to not be nervous: 2 valuable tips
These tips have been tried and tested – these are what I use when I am nervous, and I encourage my clients to do the same thing:
Trick 1: Breathing
This is a breathing technique that you can use to calm your entire physical body.
Breathing has long been known as the only way you can consciously tap into your subconscious mind.
This exercise is called “Xanax breath” as it has a similar result to taking this medication (without the side-effects!)
You need to take about 2 minutes to do this exercise.
- Inhale slowly into your belly for a count of 5.
- Hold this breath for a count of 5.
- Exhale slowly for a count of 5.
- Repeat 5 times.
Make sure you take a break and breathe normally after doing 5 inhalations and exhalations.
You may find that your nervousness returns – that’s ok – just do the breathing exercise again.
Trick 2: Visualisation
This technique takes some mental stamina, but it is very powerful.
All you need to do is take a few minutes to imagine the event which is making you nervous.
And in your mind’s eye, see it working out really well.
So here are the steps:
- See the event in front of you.
- Put yourself inside the event.
- SEE it vividly.
- HEAR any noises and sounds.
- FEEL the temperature, and any textures.
- TASTE any food or drink.
- SMELL any aromas or odours.
- With all these senses engaged, experience this event going really well for you.
- What would need to be happening for you to know that this event was successful for you?
I would LOVE to know how these tips work for you – please let me know.
Love + light
PS – My free energy healing exercise for social anxiety also contains a bonus technique you can use to help you not feel so nervous – it works wonders. Download it here.