Hi Eva, I have a fear of driving.
I’ve never learned, and I’ve always relied on my family or boyfriend for transport.
But I can see that this is wearing thin and since the start of the year my family and partner have been subtly encouraging me to get my license.
I feel like there is something invisible holding me back.
Like an energetic block that I can’t see that is literally pinning me down.
Do you have any advice or guidance for me?
I received this email from Butterfly Corrina yesterday, and I’ve reprinted it with her permission.
As I explained to her yesterday, fear of driving is so incredibly common among women with social anxiety, this response will help many.
I made a video about anxiety while driving a few years ago – you will find the tips in that article useful as well.
So here we go with the inspiration, channeled from Spirit:
Growing up is your right in this lifetime, my Butterfly.
Not just growing up physically – but growing up mentally as well.
And in this day and age, driving is part of modern life.
Of course, driving is also a huge responsibility.
And it brings up all those feelings of needing to “perform” under pressure.
But driving is not a natural-born behaviour.
It is a learned skill.
Everyone who drives a car needed to learn how to do it.
Many humans approach learning to drive with vigour and enthusiasm.
Many more are nervous.
And when you have social anxiety, these feelings of nervousness are compounded.
So it’s completely natural to feel fearful when learning to drive.
Or when getting back behind the wheel after a motor accident.
Or even just feeling that creeping anxiety that comes from nowhere and comes on for no reason.
It’s all ok, and it’s all natural.
It’s just your brain identifying driving as a learned behaviour.
And, as with all learned behaviours, you will continue to learn and modify.
You modify your skills all the time, without even realising it.
Driving is no different.
Firstly, you need to get clear about your own motivation to drive.
Where will you drive to?
Will it make your life easier?
Will you get tasks done quicker?
Or will you then be expected to do more – is the anxiety about driving actually masking a fear of taking on more responsibility?
Secondly, if you don’t have your license yet, you need to find someone that you trust to take you for driving lessons.
Honestly – family and friends might not be the best pick for this.
Teaching someone to drive is a stressful activity and it can bring out the worst in people.
So if you can swing it at all – employ a professional instructor.
You’ll be amazed at how quickly you will learn with a professional.
Thirdly, and finally, you need to mentally prepare.
This involves visualisations and affirmations.
See yourself getting into the driver’s seat and gripping the steering wheel.
Feel the confidence exuding from your heart chakra.
You drive confidently and competently to where you need to go, and do what you need to do.
You have learned the skills.
Just like all the other drivers out there.
If you can, do your visualisation while you are sitting in an actual drivers seat and gripping an actual steering wheel.
And affirm: I am capable and I trust myself.
Love + light
PS – Sometimes panic can seem to come out of nowhere, without warning. Download my free Panic Self-Help meditation, and listen to it next time you are caught in a panic attack. It will heal your energy field and lessen the severity and duration of your panic attacks over time.