It’s natural to want to know how to overcome fear.
But it’s important that you know:
It’s not that the fear will completely disappear, my Butterfly.
You will always have a little bit of fear.
Fear keeps you healthy.
Fear keeps you alive.
Fear stops you from running into the traffic or leaping off cliffs.
Fear is an integral part of your wiring, it keeps you safe, and usually this is a good thing.
It’s when your fear gets out of control and morphs into anxiety that it becomes a problem.
Or – when a fear of something in particular begins to intrude into your life and becomes a habit.
This is when fear stops being a good thing, and starts to become something that you need to get under control.
And, despite all the voices out there that say it can’t be done, out-of-control fear and anxiety (including social anxiety) are highly treatable conditions.
There are so many treatment options out there.
The problem is that you’ve given up on yourself too early.
And also, you expect a treatment to make you feel wonderful, 100% of the time, right away.
Truth is, nobody feels wonderful all of the time.
In fact, MOST people feel crappy, a good deal of the time.
The difference between how they think and how you think is this:
They put their crap into perspective.
And they certainly don’t allow their crap to rule their lives.
Anyway – back to fear.
Fear and how you can conquer it.
The problem with fear is, that usually people only think about it when they are in it.
Or, in the case of a phobia, when they need to think about an upcoming situation when they might be exposed to it.
The rest of the time, your brains seeks pleasure and avoids pain.
Fear is painful indeed.
So the issue is that you avoid thinking about it unless you absolutely have to.
Again, this is how you are wired.
Fear is a reaction, more than a state of mind.
And for most, the very idea of thinking about their fear will bring up a whole bunch of denial and avoidance.
As an energy healer, I see it all the time.
But of course – denial and avoidance get you nowhere closer to overcoming your fear.
So – you must face, and accept.
Face the truth of your fear.
And accept it’s place in your life.
Step 1 – How to face your fear:
This does NOT involve triggering your fear.
Instead, I want you to take a moment to think about your fear objectively.
See it in your mind’s eye.
Build up a picture of it.
Then, freeze the picture.
And turn it black and white.
Step 2 – How to accept your fear:
Acceptance is the next step in overcoming your fear, and this is how you do it:
Holding that frozen, black-and-white image of the fear in your mind, I want you to put it in a bubble of white light.
Lots of white light.
Create plenty of white light space around it.
And then, I want you to try and shrink the image of the fear right down, so the space around your fear is even bigger.
And then, let it be.
Just allow it to be.
Bring yourself back to the here and now, and get on with your life.
And next time you are in a situation when your fear is usually triggered, you will notice a big difference in your fear levels.
I would love to know how you get on with this exercise, and the results you get, in the comments below.
Love + light
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